The other day, I talked to a friend of mine....we talked about me and exactly what makes me so horrible.
Yeah, no really.
We spent a good forty five minutes in deep, soul-searching conversation, in which we both talked about, quite simply, our flaws. And while I thought I'd scared her a bit (heck, I scared ME), I realized something. That our flaws are merely answers.
They are answers to questions that we can't answer with our OWN personalities. When you can't do something with the person you are, your flaws develop. It's ALL part of the survivalist instinct, the need and raw desire to be able to "deal" with anything. We deal with things by adapting our personalities, and a lot of the time, we don't like these adaptations. We call these flaws, because that's the only way we can excuse them.
But now I think it's high time we embraced these welcome additions to our personalities, instead of making excuses for them.
So, here we go. I can be MANIPULATIVE. I can be CUNNING. I can be PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. I can MAKE YOU CRY. I can SAY THINGS THAT WILL PIERCE YOUR HEART. I can be SPITEFUL. I can get DEFENSIVE. I can be COLD. I can CREATE STRIFE.
But you know what?
If I didn't have the capacity to manipulate, people WOULD walk over me, I know it, again, because it is a DEVELOPED trait. People USED to walk over me, but then I started fighting for myself and getting what I want. The fact of the matter is, if you HAVE no manipulative ability in you, you can't and don't ever get what you want. I do, and I'm proud to say that when situation calls, I CAN get what I want and manage it on my own.
If I couldn't be cunning, I wouldn't be a planner. People wouldn't ask me what to do in situations, because I'd have no idea. Now, you know what? I do. And I'm proud.
Similarly with everything else!
Now, this doesn't mean I'm a heartless, cold, hideous person. I'm NOT manipulative or cunning or spiteful or angry by nature. But I CAN be. I wouldn't change a single thing about myself, and I'm not ashamed to admit that my character is filled with shades of colour, not all of them bright and pretty. Sometimes, it CAN scare me a little, but as long as I have my own heart beating in my body and not someone ELSE'S, I'm not worried.
Because remember, if you love me enough to be reading this, odds are, I carry a bit of your heart in mine, and THAT'S what makes it unique.
And now that I've screwed a good post with a mushy sentiment, I'm going to go nurse my camel mouth now. (My mouth still hurts. Dentists are evil, evil, evil people.)
Yeah, no really.
We spent a good forty five minutes in deep, soul-searching conversation, in which we both talked about, quite simply, our flaws. And while I thought I'd scared her a bit (heck, I scared ME), I realized something. That our flaws are merely answers.
They are answers to questions that we can't answer with our OWN personalities. When you can't do something with the person you are, your flaws develop. It's ALL part of the survivalist instinct, the need and raw desire to be able to "deal" with anything. We deal with things by adapting our personalities, and a lot of the time, we don't like these adaptations. We call these flaws, because that's the only way we can excuse them.
But now I think it's high time we embraced these welcome additions to our personalities, instead of making excuses for them.
So, here we go. I can be MANIPULATIVE. I can be CUNNING. I can be PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. I can MAKE YOU CRY. I can SAY THINGS THAT WILL PIERCE YOUR HEART. I can be SPITEFUL. I can get DEFENSIVE. I can be COLD. I can CREATE STRIFE.
But you know what?
If I didn't have the capacity to manipulate, people WOULD walk over me, I know it, again, because it is a DEVELOPED trait. People USED to walk over me, but then I started fighting for myself and getting what I want. The fact of the matter is, if you HAVE no manipulative ability in you, you can't and don't ever get what you want. I do, and I'm proud to say that when situation calls, I CAN get what I want and manage it on my own.
If I couldn't be cunning, I wouldn't be a planner. People wouldn't ask me what to do in situations, because I'd have no idea. Now, you know what? I do. And I'm proud.
Similarly with everything else!
Now, this doesn't mean I'm a heartless, cold, hideous person. I'm NOT manipulative or cunning or spiteful or angry by nature. But I CAN be. I wouldn't change a single thing about myself, and I'm not ashamed to admit that my character is filled with shades of colour, not all of them bright and pretty. Sometimes, it CAN scare me a little, but as long as I have my own heart beating in my body and not someone ELSE'S, I'm not worried.
Because remember, if you love me enough to be reading this, odds are, I carry a bit of your heart in mine, and THAT'S what makes it unique.
And now that I've screwed a good post with a mushy sentiment, I'm going to go nurse my camel mouth now. (My mouth still hurts. Dentists are evil, evil, evil people.)
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